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Take Care As Seasons Change

By MegTaylor | October 2, 2018 | 0 Comments

As the days grow shorter, our energy naturally declines and we may feel tired or even depressed. How can we stabilize our energy and make sure our quality of life and work do not suffer?

Here are a few of my favorite tips:

1. Set your intention
Try out the following journal prompts to set your intention: How will I take exquisite care of myself this fall? How will I celebrate this time of year? What do I need to do for myself when the short days get me down? Post your answers somewhere you’ll see them every day.

2. Listen to your body
You are adjusting to changes in temperature, sunlight, and more. What does it need to make the transition? More sleep? A massage? Lots of healthy fats and proteins? Give yourself permission to say “Yes!” to what your body asks for, and remember that slowing down during this transition is normal and natural.

3. Stay active!
Give yourself permission to rest, but resist the urge to hibernate. What sort of activity would feel best for you right now? You might swap out your solo summer jogs for a Barre class, for instance. I love to join group classes in the autumn and winter because it gives me the accountability I need to stay active.

4. Get Social With Autumn Activities You Love
Research shows social connections fight feelings of loneliness and increase your resilience. Some of my favorite community activities in the fall include autumn-themed dinners, apple picking, visits to the farmer’s market, movie nights, and bonfires. Plan these events ahead of time, so you have things to look forward to.

5. Create an Autumn Meal Plan
Eating seasonally means you get food packed with nutrients.  I love this article about ayurvedic eating tips for fall.

6. Harvest the bounty in your business
Autumn is the time to check in with potential clients before they get busy with holiday activities. The autumn is a time of abundance, as well as the last quarter of the fiscal year, so it is a great time to finalize contracts.

7. Set up your fall wardrobe
The clothes you wear can change how you act in life and business (read more here). Filling my closet with gorgeous fall colors and bringing out my favorite boots always makes me feel ready to make the most of the season.

8. Think Vitamin D
Your body produces vitamin D naturally when you’re in the sun. When the days grow shorter, your levels of Vitamin D can drop and make you feel more tired and depressed. In the autumn, I always take a vitamin D supplement. I also have many friends who swear by UV lamps.

How are you taking care of yourself this fall? Comment and let me know!

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

Is Being “Practical” Keeping You Stuck?

By MegTaylor | September 18, 2018 | 0 Comments

Let’s talk about magic.

I find magic when I leave behind “should” and choose the opportunities that light me up.

Case and point: My upcoming retreat to India.

When my colleague Cat and I chose the location for our second retreat, this was MAGIC. We wrote out all the places we could possibly go, and chose the spot that filled us with the most wonder and excitement.

Our decision went against many of the standard “retreat-planning rules.” We chose a location far from the United States, created a longer itinerary, etc… because it felt right.

Trusting yourself sometimes means breaking the rules.

Good thing we did! Our decision worked out beautifully! We now have 10 gorgeous people signed up for the trip of a lifetime (two spots are left — is one of them yours?!)!

You know, people talk a lot about RULES.  But often, a rule just represents ONE option.

Many people, like Nelson Mandela, left a legacy by breaking the rules. Still more people found success in business because they went against the norm (check out this article by Forbes!).

It’s important to know the rules, yes. It’s also important to trust yourself enough to break them.

Here’s to less “should,” and more magic!

Embrace the Experience,

Meg

YES YES YES!

By MegTaylor | August 6, 2018 | 0 Comments

Do you ever want to say “Yes, yes, yes!!!!” to an opportunity… only to talk yourself out of it later?

These moments of clarity — where we know EXACTLY what we want and feel that desire deep in our bones — are downloads from the Universe. They are a spark meant to light your way in the darkness.

When we act on these moments with courage, knowing that second-guessing and fear is a normal part of the process, we can fast-track our success.

I see this with my clients time and time again. A couple recent examples:

*One woman declared her ideal salary (a number she threw out on intuition, having no idea how it could possibly happen). She got to work on interviews and, a few months later, received a surprising job offer for the exact number she named.

*Another woman got an intuitive hit that she needed a mentor with very specific knowledge. She hesitantly shared this with me. Living in a small town, she had no idea how she would meet this person. A week later, the exact person she needed showed up to a local networking group.

Empowering your divine downloads is a muscle you can strengthen.

In the past, it took me years to say “Yes!” to an opportunity I knew was right for me. It just felt so scary! Now, it can be a matter of minutes.

One example:

On a trip to New York in April, I met the man I knew would be my next mentor.

“I feel like I’m supposed to train with you,” I said. “Tell me how and I will make it work.”

Starting in November, I’ll be flying to the Silicon Valley every other month. I made this commitment to train under him before I knew any of the specifics.

I had no idea where or when the training would take place.

I had no idea how much it would cost.

I just had a deep sense that this was the RIGHT decision.

My commitment gave me a serious momentum boost and I’ve just closed out my most profitable 30 days of business ever. Paying for all those flights to California is no problem now!

This email is NOT meant to inspire you to say “Yes!” to any exciting idea. 

It is meant to remind you that you can TRUST in the deep calling you feel or in the idea that comes to mind that somehow feels “right.”

Have courage! Listen to your gut! You are an intuitive being with the answers inside of you.

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

Women of an Uncertain Age

By MegTaylor | July 30, 2018 | 0 Comments

Are you waiting for the “right” way to get started? Or the “best” next step to appear?

Are you waiting until conditions are perfect? Until you have the “right” equipment, tools, or techniques to take the leap into what you KNOW is next for you?

If you find this is your mindset, you may be kicking the can down the road. And because the road through life is (hopefully) long…. you can keep kicking that can for a VERY long time.

What if the question weren’t about the “right” time, but about…

  • Self-actualization
  • Having fun
  • Sharing your gifts with the world
  • Honoring your process
  • Learning sacred lessons as you go that ensure your long-term success

When we remember that it’s about THOSE things, rather than perfectionism, we make magic happen. We do the work to make ourselves and our mission visible. And then…

The right partners appear.

Opportunities arise.

Sh*t actually happens!

I experienced a great example of the “Just do it!” attitude a few weeks ago when I did an interview about authentic relating with my friends Karen and Philippa. These ladies run a podcast called “Women of Uncertain Age” and I love the attitude they bring to this passion project. We did the podcast session at Philippa’s kitchen table. We recorded the session with her iPhone. We drank a little wine and laughed a lot.

Was it perfect? No way. But it was a hell of a lot of fun… and we had a great conversation that made a difference for people (through their “Just Do It!” attitude, they’ve created a dedicated following!). In fact, someone who heard the podcast attended my last Authentic Relating Games night because she was inspired by what she learned.

Let your LOVE be bigger than your FEAR.

Let your desire to SERVE others and HAVE FUN be BIGGER than the reasons why you can’t.

You can do it.

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

P.S. Let me know what you think of the podcast!

 

***Update*** 

Woops! This blog post had the wrong title!

…and right after I wrote about choosing “Just do it!” over perfectionism.

You can’t make this stuff up.

Let this be a magical, cosmic reminder that DOING THE THING — even if you get the title wrong 😉 — is better than not taking action.

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

Here’s What It’s Like to Travel With Me…

By MegTaylor | July 18, 2018 | 0 Comments

Over the past two weeks, I’ve interviewed past travelers on PACK Retreats.

Today, I spoke with Matt Maxwell (who inspired the title of this email!).

Last week, I talked with Neil Takemoto.

I run these retreats with my colleague Catherine Wood, and we are sharing these interviews to show how FRICKIN’ AWESOME our travelers are.

Our vision is that PACK Retreats give people a powerful experience during the trip… but also once they get home. We are building a global community of inspired, heart-driven creators. By highlighting the incredible people who have joined us this far, we know we will inspire other movers-and-shakers to join us in the future.

Are you awesome? Do you love people? Do you love living a happy life?

Join us in India (co-ed) or in the Dominican Republic (ladies only!) in 2019.

Embrace the Adventure,

Meg

People Pleasing Doesn’t Serve Anyone

By MegTaylor | May 17, 2018 | 0 Comments

Dear Readers,

I shared this on my Facebook page and I felt inspired to share it here, too:

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People pleasing doesn’t do anyone any favors.

What it does do:

*Gives people a false sense of your boundaries
*Gives people a false sense of your needs
*Creates unrealistic expectations about what you can do
*Creates a false and unsustainable relationship dynamic that can go on for years
*Generates burnout, resentment, and/or self-care breakdowns for the people pleaser
*Generates resentment/upset if the other person feels like they’ve been “lied to” about who you are and what you need

I am a recovering people pleaser, so I KNOW how challenging it can feel to own your truth.

But I also know that owning your truth in the moment can save you a lot of time and clean up later.

Practicing authenticity in setting your boundaries will also:
*Improve your self-care
*Build your confidence
*Support you in cultivating self-love
*Establish a precedent of honesty in your relationships
*Create healthy expectations
*Help you identify when you need more support

It’s from THAT place that you can powerfully, intentionally and sustainably create your life.

Take 100% ownership for (lovingly) sharing your truth. It will not always be easy, but there is a lightness to living openly that is invaluable.

***

I want to know: How do you work through people pleasing? 

You’re Selfish

By MegTaylor | May 11, 2018 | 0 Comments

Dear Readers,

Many of my clients would rather run themselves ragged than be called selfish.

To avoid seeming selfish or uncommitted, they give of themselves until they are exhausted.

They work long hours. They stop going to the gym. They don’t exercise their “No” with friends or family.

Then they wonder why they feel burnt out, tired, and can’t create the relationship with others (or themselves) they want.

This is because, ultimately, their choices are based in AVOIDANCE.

They are focused on what they DON’T want to be.

In this black-and-white world, they’re either selfish (bad) or unselfish (good).

When they stop and examine the fear of being selfish, they start to see a grey area. They start to see that being selfish can be the BEST thing you can do for others.

What does it even mean to be selfish?

It means we put ourselves first.

It means we take care of our own needs.

It means we put on our proverbial oxygen mask before we assist others.

Because, honestly, who are we going to help if we’re passed out in the emergency exit?

To give others our highest and best, we must first exquisitely support ourselves.

I recently saw an interview between Oprah and Iyanla Vanzant that described this beautifully.

“How you treat yourself is how you treat God because you are the representative of God in your life,” Vanzant said.

“So it’s not selfish to put yourself first?” Oprah asked.

“No, It’s self-ful… to be as good as possible to you. You want to come with your cup full.”

***

Remember: What we avoid controls us. Facing, and changing our relationship to, what we fear is access to freedom.

Imagine the impeccable energy you could bring to others if you were fully sourced, fully supported, fully cared for.

What could you create in your family, your relationships, and your career if you truly put your needs first?

Imagine how THAT version of yourself would show up to a challenge. Imagine how THAT version of yourself would treat others.

I invite you to step into the grey area — to embrace mindful selfishness.

I invite you to give yourself permission to have the self-care or support you’ve been craving.

A life of powerful intention and possibility is within your reach. Are you self-ful enough to claim it?

***

Did this blog post resonate with you?

I want to know: What is your biggest takeaway?

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

Left Shark Moment

By MegTaylor | March 19, 2018 | 0 Comments

There I am on the far left, looking seriously professional.

But don’t be fooled… This was my left shark moment. 

Let’s rewind for those who don’t know this cultural reference.

During the 2015 Super Bowl, Katy Perry rocked the half time show. It was great exposure for her, but the true star was one of her backup dancers — the man in the giant shark costume on her left.

“Left shark” became an instant celebrity featured on national news outlets. People talked about him for weeks because his choreography was clearly off and his improvised moves were oh-so hilarious. You can see the video here.

(Left shark made headlines again recently when he explained what happened during the performance. See this NPR article.)

Ok — now back to the story!

In February, I joined a four-week women’s salsa styling class. I thought this would be a great opportunity to learn new moves and make friends.

When I arrived for the first class, however, the teacher announced we would perform the choreography.

“Are you dancing with us, Megan?” She asked me (in Spanish, of course).

I said yes.

But by the end of the first class I was worried. Most of the women were already amazing dancers. As these beautiful Latinas twirled their way across the floor, I flailed around in back like a fish out of water.

Over the next two weeks, I became increasingly nervous. I spent hours in between classes trying to learn the choreography and no one seemed available to practice with me.

A week before the show, I went to a final rehearsals.

As the other ladies turned across the floor, I stood awkwardly in place. When they did a complicated series of moves, I got lost and ended up facing the wrong direction.

“You look confused.” The dance teacher told me.

Yeah… thanks.

It would have been easy to give up. This was NOT what I had expected. I felt humiliated and alone. My ego was screaming at me to call it quits.

But then my coach-brained turned on: What’s the bigger thing for me to learn here?

Since arriving, I had been trying to gain friends and connect with others by looking “together,” rather than by relaxing and truly connecting with people.

I was trying to prove myself by doing things “right,” rather than loving myself — and letting others love me — simply for me. (After all, this gringa with terrible Spanish and mediocre salsa moves was actually really nice, fun, and charming!)

It was exhausting. And I decided I would rather create success from EASE and CONNECTION rather than from PERFORMANCE.

So, for the next week, I asked for support as much as I needed it (especially when I felt like it was “too much”). I practiced laughing at myself and embracing “good enough.” I practiced not taking myself so seriously and keeping things in perspective.

From this new place, I got the support I needed and had a hell of a lot more fun. My fellow dancers helped me, rooted for me, and made sure I was able to get into my costume (those tight, frilly outfits are difficult to put on!).

As it turns out, being a demand for what you want is often necessity here! If you ask once, twice, or three times, you probably won’t get what you need. No one thinks it’s pushy. People think it’s normal. (Thanks, Universe, for the opportunity to endlessly practice standing up for what I need! What a great skill to strengthen!)

By the next week, I was somewhat ready for the performance. I knew most of the moves but — more importantly — I had the right attitude.

Making FUN, EASE, and CONNECTION non-negotiable turned everything around. And I got what I wanted: better dance technique, new friends, and a memorable experience.

Was my performance perfect? Hardly! You can see it here.

But it was good enough! And we’ve been invited to perform our choreography at the Hard Rock Cafe… so I’ll have another shot and plenty more time to practice.

Readers, Where are you taking yourself too seriously? Is it killing your ability to have fun and be present? What is the experience you really want?

Whatever it is, you can create it NOW! You can choose to assume the attitude that will allow you to have the experience you desire.

Don’t forget it, and don’t forget to…

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan

In Honor of International Women’s Day

By MegTaylor | March 8, 2018 | 0 Comments

Dear Readers,

In honor of International Women’s Day, I want to feature a few ladies who have made a big difference for me this year, as well as offer a free, three-hour coaching intensive to a woman who is making a difference for those around her.

Leah Beilhart

Who is this gorgeous babe, you ask? Why, it’s Leah Beilhart! Photographer, videographer, and community leader extraordinaire! Leah makes a massive contribution through her community Behold.Her in Washington DC and does beautiful work for her clients — all while being kind, gracious, and quirky in the best way. She is to thank for our beautiful video of the Dominican retreat.

Darys Estrella


It’s not often your AirBnB host becomes a friend. Darys is an amazing woman and fate brought us together in the Dominican Republic. Darys lived in New York for many years and worked on Wall Street before moving back to the DR to become the first female CEO of the Dominican Stock Exchange. She came from modest beginnings and recently released a book about her path to success. She is in the midst of launching her international speaking career (just last week she spoke at three events in Colombia), and it’s been a blast to work side by side with her from her apartment. She is honest, kind, and all-around badass.

Mickela Mallozzi

In 2017, Dance Adventures collaborated with Mickela — the Emmy-Award-Winning host of the television show Bare Feet — to run our dance trip to Argentina. Mickela’s tenacity is inspiring. Initially, she struggled to find support for her show because she didn’t look like a typical television host. She stayed with it and now has three Emmys under her belt. She is an amazing example of what happens when a brilliant woman applies herself to a project she adores.

Make sure to follow these three ladies so you receive updates on the amazing things they’re creating!

Embrace the adventure,

Megan

Stop Complaining

By MegTaylor | February 19, 2018 | 0 Comments

Dear Readers,

Three weeks ago, I got a wake-up call.

While eating with a friend, he said something that left me speechless.

Up until this time, I thought I was handling my transition to the DR beautifully. Despite numerous challenges (unreliable internet, terrible traffic, my cost of business tripling, etc…), I felt I was adjusting well.

What I didn’t realize is that I was complaining… a lot.

That night, as I ate with my friend, I was caught in that pattern. And, after listening to the story about my difficult day, he dropped a truth bomb:

He put down his fork, looked me right in the eyes, and said “You complain and get angry too much.”

Me: (Stunned silence, wide-eyed, embarrassed)

Him: It’s true. And you can’t find a solution when you get upset like that.

Me: I guess that’s true. There are just so many challenges about living here…

Him: You’re in a big transition, but you have to learn to stay calm. Just look at my mom. She lost her job three months ago, my family is losing money, and we all still laugh every day. You need to relax. There is always a solution, but you won’t be able to see it if you are angry. Relax and be happy.

I didn’t know what to say, but I knew what I felt:  Shame. Guilt. Humiliation.

…Until I realized that was more of the drama I’d been creating. And it was time to cut that sh*t out. 

My friend was was so right. When we get angry or upset, our creativity dies. We are no longer able to creatively and intelligently face challenges. By hopping on the emotional roller coaster, we give up all of our power.

Rather than repeat the same old thing, I decided it was time to step it up as a badass boss babe and powerful creator I am. That night, I:

  • Put myself on a complaint diet, and empowered a morning gratitude practice
  • Resolved to make decisions more quickly (rather than hemming, hawing, and creating decision fatigue)
  • Asked my friend for help with an issue only a local could solve (and put a date on our calendars to address it)
  • Identified three solid ways to improve my self-care (since complaining is a sign that we have needs that need to be met!)

The result? My quality of life skyrocketed, I resolved several challenges, I became more resilient in the face of setbacks, and I created more time to spend on my hobbies and building friendships.

There is so much wisdom in this interaction, so I am thrilled to share it with you all.

Wisdom bomb 1: Be open to reflections from people you love and trust, even if they are upsetting at first. There is value in knowing how people see you show up in the world. If you’re willing to look at their reflection objectively, you may identify an opportunity to make your life or relationships better.

Wisdom bomb 2: Keep things in perspective. I was worked up about a challenge in my business when someone else was worried about making ends meet. When we focus on what we have (resilience, income, resources, opportunity, community, love), we are more creative and strategic. We are able to experience joy and play in the face of challenge.

Wisdom bomb 3: Have compassion for yourself, and don’t forget that self-care is core to your resilience, courage, and ability to be with transition. Self-care is the first place I look when I notice I feel “off.”

What did you get from this story, readers? What other wisdom bombs do you see? I would love to know.

Wishing you all a beautiful, creative, and powerful week!

Embrace the Adventure,

Megan