This interview with Alexis Masso is part of my 2021 Autumn Adventure Tour. This trip promotes small businesses along the East Coast, shares interviews with my past and current clients, and highlights my upcoming business mastermind.

Transcript:

SPEAKERS

Alexis Masso, Megan Taylor Morrison

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Hey everyone, I am here at the beautiful home of my former client Alexis Masso. I’m so excited for you to meet her and to hear about her coaching experience. Here we go. 

How would you describe this cool bohemian house? Is it bohemian chic? Is it something else?

Alexis Masso  

Probably maximalism. I got that term from Jungalow. Have you ever heard of that blog? The designer’s name is Justina Blakeney, and she calls her style maximalism. It’s basically lots of plants and lots of everything. Just what she loves. It does ring bohemian. It’s the idea that you can’t have too much on your walls. That’s truly my belief, Like, a blank space on a wall? That’s boring.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

How tall are you?

Alexis Masso  

I am 5’8” and 3/4.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

What’s your astrological sign? Are you proud?

Alexis Masso  

Gemini. I’m proud and true. They wrote it. They wrote the description of Gemini to fit me.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Alright, so let’s talk a little bit about coaching. What inspired you to hire a coach?

Alexis Masso  

The opportunity to hire a coach actually fell in my lap. I had just gone through a really difficult period of my life and was struggling through a big depression. I just couldn’t really see the future. I would call it a full depression. A good friend of mine was seeing you for her business, and you had offered her these coupons around Christmastime for essence calls. She was like, “You know, I’ve been trying to figure out who I’m gonna give this to. I want to give it to you.” And I was like, “Well, okay, that sounds great.” So I went in not knowing what essence call meant or anything, but it was a 90 minute or 2 hour call. It was a really generous amount of time, an actual gift that didn’t cost money. And so we did the essence call and we came up with what became my essence words, which are words that I still keep with me. I just felt so connected to you and to myself in the call. I felt good during the call. I was kind of in this place where I was trying to figure out what was next for me in terms of my individual growth and what I wanted to do with my future, so it was a perfect fit.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Our big focal points became money and self love. Sometimes going in, you’re not sure what they’re going to be. Let’s talk about both of those topics. What results did you see in your finances?

Alexis Masso  

I marvel about this a lot still. I changed my relationship to it. I was able to take responsibility for something that I felt like I had very little control over before working with you. And it’s something that I’m not only still managing to do today, but have been able to get my partner on board with too. One of my goals with that was to get to a place where I didn’t have to worry about the waxing and waning of money, to develop a system I could trust. I am there now. It’s no longer something that I worry about often. We’re really fortunate, but it was a lot of work to formulate the plan that we now follow.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

You were so incredibly diligent about taking the things that we talked about and applying them in your life. How did you do that? What would you recommend for people that are starting the coaching journey?

Alexis Masso  

Well, I guess I was ready to make changes for myself. I also really trusted your ability to help me do that. To root me on and help me uncover my own power. In addition, coaching is an investment. I carved out time to work on the practices and commit to my investment. I approached it as, “Okay, I’ve invested money in creating a plan to live the life I want to live. And now I have to commit to the actions to back that up. It’s a practice.” When you look at it that way, you get so much out of it.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

You can get a lot out of just coming to the sessions, but what I see consistently is that when people like you are willing to show up and do the work, they get so much more out of it. It really enriches the conversations.

Alexis Masso  

Yeah, and that’s not to say that every week was perfect. You know, there were lots of weeks where certain things wouldn’t get done and other things that would easily get done out of the goals we had set for me. Examining that was also valuable, because it showed where I needed extra attention. What was my blockage around doing this one thing when I’m so capably doing this other? It helped me evaluate myself from a removed vantage point, without making myself wrong or bad. I could be curious about it. Like, hmm, that’s interesting. I was able to take pride in what I was doing well and give love to what I was still working on, with you to guide me in navigating that.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Yeah, we learned lessons from what got done and didn’t get done. Learning to practice self compassion for the things that didn’t get done and approaching it from a place of curiosity rather than judgment becomes a central theme for a lot of people.

Alexis Masso  

Yeah. And it’s something that can become your new way of being for everything. I feel like coaching is a micro-universe of what you’re experiencing in every other moment of your life. You’re just doing it under a microscope so that you can apply what works elsewhere.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Yeah. This is a perfect segue into the next piece around the breakthroughs that you had with self love. Tell us about some of that and how that was for you.

Alexis Masso  

That part of it for me has been the most meaningful. The finance piece also mattered, and I loved how I’ve carried it forward to date, but the things that we worked on around my relationship to myself were transformational. I get emotional still thinking about how far I’ve come. I remember sharing with you some of the powerlessness I felt in my life. I feel seen for my power beyond what that story was because we worked on it. We looked at how that story originated and brought attention to the ways that I was undermining my own confidence. This noticing has helped me to choose differently going forward and create an experience with myself that I enjoy having. I have a friendship with myself now that is really sustaining. I still carry that ability with me now to notice when I’m having a hard time and to love myself through it. The change in my relationship to self love started just with small things that I would do for myself, like taking a bath or getting a manicure. It’s evolved over time into big things like speaking up even when I’m afraid to say something that will upset someone. It’s a lot less about material things and much more about owning my full experience in the world and owning my fullness as a human. I can now see the value in things that I previously didn’t see the value in.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Was there a moment when you realized, “Oh, coaching makes a difference?”

Alexis Masso  

Yeah. I was on a trip. You had taught me the concept of “at cause” and “at effect.” At effect is the victim frame of mind. At cause is the responsible, accountable and powerful frame of mind. I was on a family trip that wasn’t going the way that I expected. At first I was upset, but then I had this moment where I just really connected to the concept you had shared. In a moment, the trip transformed from being something I was dreading to something I was actively enjoying. This was an important moment in my coaching journey because I understood and applied the concept in a way that I can still use now.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

As you talk about it, I remember it. It was the 4th of July.

Alexis Masso  

Yeah. It was massive. It was amazing to connect to my power like that and realize that I can do so in any given moment. It’s always available to me. It’s always available to all of us.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Yes, absolutely.

What’s it like to work with Meg as a coach?

Alexis Masso  

It is incredible. Meg comes to the calls fully present and ready to serve. She truly roots for you. She sees your fullness and potential in a moment that is a struggle. and in a moment that is a joy.  She sees the beauty in all of it. She made me rethink what perfect meant. Everything is perfect. What a beautiful spiritual notion that is. Nothing is ever going wrong. It’s all what you need it to be. It can all be valuable. It’s a joy, a delight, to work with someone like that, because she doesn’t just say it. She embodies it. You can tell that these aren’t just things she’s telling you to do. These are things that she has done for herself and things that she is living out. She is in 110%. Not very many people do that. She’s a treasure, a really special woman. She deserves the best in the world, because she gives the best.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Thank you. 

Does coaching still impact your life today? And if so, how?

Alexis Masso  

It definitely does. Some of the things that we talked about and worked on have come full circle. I was able to work through some of the challenges that I brought to our calls such that they’re not challenges anymore. Other things are more ongoing. That’s life. But the biggest impact is through your concept of perfection, like I was saying a minute ago. I don’t look at a situation with the judgment of this is bad or good anymore. I look at it in terms of how I can alchemize it into something important. And that’s how you become resilient. That’s the growth mindset. I learned that from coaching. I did therapy before I did coaching. I’ve don’t therapy since I was 22, and now I’m almost 40. We worked together for not even a whole year. Yet, in that short amount of time, the way that I approached the personal development aspect of my life changed completely. I realized that what I needed was right here, the whole time. Plot twist. I still see a therapist, but it’s a completely different experience. I come to it with the same way of working that I got out of coaching. I approach anything that I want to change or alter as fully capable, which is an enormous difference from how I was before I met you. Enormous. It’s been a couple of years now, and I still feel like you’re with me, through the things we worked on and the lessons that I learned from coaching. It’s one of the most important things I’ve done in my adulthood.

Megan Taylor Morrison  

Oh, I know me too. I’m gonna pause so we can hug. This was beautiful.

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